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April 07 update in AprilHello everyone
Wow hard to believe its April already. I am so disappointed with this weather. Hot summer breeze and segals flying sounds good. I would even take the smell of fresh cut green grass right now... anyways things are going well. The married life is good thought I would never say that but its amamazing. Kyle spent last week with us we had fun. I just cant believe he is going to be a sophmore that blows my mind away. I was watching some videos from when my kids were little and of course the emotional cat that I am sat there crying. It just at times seems like yesterday. I had Samantha and Colton this past week. We celebrated our Easter. My kids were gone to there dads. I could not help but think about all the memories of easter with my own kids. Samantha and Colton are learning the same traditions that I have with my children what a riot. I can honestly say they get the best years out of me. I have so much more patience and tolerance this second go a round. Abree has been preparing for her dance recital at the end of May. I am excited for her. She is growing like a weed. Its hard to believe that 7th grade is approaching. Samantha's dance recital is coming up too. Kyle will be starting drivers training real soon.... I told him I was sad as his mom not to get to drive with him while he is learning since it would be outragious to add him to our insurance when he does not live here.... but .... I thought about it and it is probably not such a bad thing lol... i dont know if my nerves could take it. We have been incrediably busy with the tent buisness, the trucking, school, work, kids ect.... anything else lol.. but I just wanted to say hello to you all and thanks for the emails.... take care and talk to you soon... Tracey March 10 our trip to vegasHello Everyone,
Wow what an amazing trip. Terry and I are officially husband and wife. It is still so hard to believe that it all happened. We had so much fun. I am now a Vegas junkie. I won about 1000.00 lost about 300.00 but the winnings pretty much paid for our rental car wedding and fun so we are happy. Terry didnt have much luck at all. If it wasnt for him I would have probably lost the entire winnings lol. It was a rough start to our trip. On Friday March 2nd we had a good bye party or should I say off to Vegas party. It was great and yes we drank quite a few Martinis. Saturday I was not feeling to hot. I at first blamed the night before and the 2:00 am Texan venture after the bar. I soon found out that I either had the Flu or food poisoning. Terry took me to the Emergency room and they pumped lots of fluid through me I was severly dehydrated and they ruled it as the flu. Sunday came quick and I had so much to do. My brother and family were still at the house for the weekend and yes I was still sick and not doing so well. Just before leaving to the airport poor Terry was dumping a vomit bucket in my honor lol.... anyways our flight went well but I still was under the weather. One look at Vegas and I could feel my eyes light up but my belly wasnt having it lol..... We didnt get to our room untill about 2:00 am and I was off to bed. Terry was so worried about me that he left his luggage and had to go buy everything.... The next morning was our wedding day. I contacted my dad who was in the same hotel only one floor up. My dad and Terry met for the first time. Dad invited us to breakfast so off we went with his friend Sean to order some pancakes. I was cautious to eat but was feeling great. Terry had to go to Sears to find some Jeans so my dad and I went to the top of the Stratosphere this is the hotel we stayed at. My Uncle Duane (Duey) also came for our wedding ceremony. He came to the top with my dad and I. It was so nice to see him. I had not seen him in about 18 years. We had to hurry I was off to get my hair done for our big day. I went to this very fancy boutique. The hair sylist is famous his first name is Nino. The most expensive do I have ever gotten lol... what the heck we are in Vegas, was my thought. The limo came and picked us up at 5:00 pm. Terry, me, my dad, duey, and sean rode in the limo. We took pictures and were all anxious. When we arived we had some more visitors arrive. My sisters friend RObin and Dale her husband also Dale went to school with my dad and duey so another reunion, and some of their family all crashed the wedding. Terry was really feeling un easy with all these strangers but the overall experience was awesome. Terry brought out his sensitive side and teared up..... I teared up but we managed to hold it together. After wards we were off to the Frontier where my dad bought dinner at Gilly's. This was a neat country bar. THey had a mechanical bull that they talked me into getting on that was cute.. Terrys song for me happened to play that is " She is everything to me" by Brad paisly. Terry and I proceeded to the dance floor all by ourselves. Others soon joined so we had our bridal dance after all. We said good bye to my dad and friends they were off to California. Terry and I hurried up to the room and changed and were out to the Casino. We had so much fun. Tuesday we hit a show in vegas. We watched an adult Hypnosis show what a hoot!!! very cool. On Wednesday we headed to Arizona for the day. We went and seen the Hoover dam, Kingman, Mead Lake, and we visited Oatman a small ghost town that had donkeys walking in the streets. This was a neat little place. We went sight seeing. The mountains were so beautiful. we hit the Playboy club at the Palms HOtel when we came back. This was my treat to Terry. We got all fancied up and were living the high life. Very expensive but he was able to get a few pictures with some of the bunnies.... We played some more at the casino.... On Thursday we slept in and hit the casino again. I hit for a final 142.00. We also went down town to Freemont street for the light show and some shopping. On Friday we went to breakfast and off to the airport. We were both bummed that our trip was over. We had a wonderful time and we are going to try to make it a point to go every year...... We loved it!!!! well check out my site for pictures of our trip.... and the wedding pics... talk to you soon ![]() we are now married loving it!!Hello all
WE LOVED VEGAS we are now officially Married!!!! hope you like the pics talk to you soon... Tracey February 22 stress studyStress Study....... this was shared with me thanks kathy i needed this lol....
February 12 every relationship is differentHello every one
I wanted to share with you something that bothers me but at the same time I have come to realize that our relationship is unique. My two sisters and I went to visit my mother yesterday. As you know my mother has been in prison. Well my sisters have not went to visit so needless to say I convinced them it was time..... Well my sister shelly is 3 years younger than me. I see Shelly as flighty... free bird doesnt seem to have organization but my other sister ( the baby) Angie is even more oppisite of me. She is disorganized, very bright, sluggish, but her m ind is ambitious. Angie and I are close when my mother is not around and the arguments are non existant. I noticed during our visit that the little comments made by angie were starting to come out. She tends to say things to upset me or knock me off my square. It really came to light and confirmed it for me because she hasnt done this for a few years. We go visit my mother and poof she starts and granted it could have been worse but I see the change in her. I guess every relationship is unique and I should just appreciate the relationship i do have with my sister. I love her dont get me wrong. We did have a good time other wise, and its not to often the three of us are together and neerly unheard of that the three of us and my mother are together all at once so once again I was blessed. well yall I have to run Abree has dance class tonight and I have to take my wedding dress to be steamed... its getting closer. Take care and hopefully i will keep up a little bit lol.... Tracey February 08 use a strategy for happinessHey everyone!!
I have not been so good at keeping up with this blog but I am attempting. I had a discussion with a friend about happiness and it was quite interesting. The conclusion was that you have to have a strategy for happiness. You choose your own demise and the final outcome. My friend said she believes that people are either born happy or unhappy. Their enviroment from the first second they are born plays apart. I could understand some what of what she was saying. I mean if your born into a family of poverty, alcoholism, abuse, less convienet means than yes by far its going to be harder for that individual but as we get older we are able to make c hoices. Happy or unhappy? I think that both kinds of people do things that create and reinforce their moods. Happy people continue to let themselves be happy. unhappy people continue doing things that upset them. Its like this when Terry was starting this buisness he had to put together a healthy business plan. He had to define what his purpose was, and c reate a strategy to accomplish that purpose. I think that as humans we have to define what our purpose is and have a strategy to acheive and get what you want out of life. I think our children do a great job with this. Children know when to be cranky they know that they can work it and get that icecream cone. They know when they are too noisy they will get a reaction from their parents. I would have to say children are better at strategy sometimes than adults. They know that there are rules and predictable patterns to life, and they use a strategy to help them get what they want. Living a happy life as an adult is li ke trying to get that ice cream cone as a child. You need to know what you want and use a strategy to get it. I sometimes have to think about what makes me happy and what makes me sad and use this to help me get what i want. I read something that said happy poeple do not experience one success after another and unhappy people do not experience failure after failure. In reality they have similiar life experiences. The difference is unhappy people spends more time thinkiing about unpleasant events in their life, the happy person spends their time seeking and relying on information that brightens their personal outlook. In the end I believe you have a choice and so many things we dont hold control of but the things we can control sometimes we give it up. Have a strategy and put your energy into how your going to make it work. I see Terry do this with our buisness, he focuses on what is going to work and he puts a plan of action together. Sometimes it fails and he picks himself up and continues to come up with another s trategy. We can all come up with a plan for our own happiness........ okay I am done rambling.... I have to get ready for class but take care and I will ramble later.. Tracey January 31 update for januaryHello everyone
I thought I should update you all I apologize for not keeping up. Times have been chaotic!! School is going well. I am having a hard time getting into it this semester. Abree is doing well she is in swimming for this semester and seems to like it. We are still doing dance and pompoms. Kyle is still in wrestling. Terry and I went to watch one of his matches YIKES that was hard on me but I am proud of him for jumping in and giving it a whirl. Samantha is going through first communion classes right now. She has her first communion on mothers day. Colton is wild as ever. Terry and I are both so excited about going to Vegas and finally completing our family and making it official. I have been going to visit my mother and we have had some nice chats. I often wonder how we all manage it all as well as we do but some how you do. I posted some updated pictures. We took a trip to Ohio to Kalahari it was an amazing water park. It puts Great Wolf to shame. We really had a great time. We celebrated Abrees 12th birthday and Coltons 4th hard to believe. My dad is coming to vegas for the ceremony and I am really excited about that also. I just thank god for each day that we all have. Well time is limited so I am off but wanted to say keep your heads high, keep smiling and reach for what ever you wish to achieve. If you dont reach for it it will not come to you..... Tracey January 01 Happy New yearI know I skipped christmas but happy holidays to you and I will be trying to keep up... but with 4 kids, school full time a full time job and now two buisnesess what the heck...how do you keep up... if th ere is one thing that bugs me it is to hear someone say they are bored... lol what does that mean.... well i will talk to you all real soon....
January- Well Kyle returned from his fathers house. It was tough on him and all of us but at the time it was what was needed. We went to the pistons vs houston game what a ball. Abree turned a whoping 11 yikes. February - well I hit 33 and was not happy about it but it could be worse. Terry and I went to the UP snow mobiling what a hoot!! March - hmmmm Kyle wanted to return to his dads to live April - kyle returned to his dads and all is working well Terrys grandfather passed away May- Camp timbers with Abree we had a riot..... June- Abree became an official middle schooler wow do you all believe it I certainly dont she also became an official woman if you know what I mean... a sad moment for parents lol... July - Abree went to volleyball camp and kyle was in football conditioning.... August- Abree went to horse back riding camp and learned so much... we took our trip to michigan adventure with samantha and colton too.. we also went to the MIS nascar track.Terry presented the trucking company idea to me and I thought he had lost his mind.I started back to school myself. September - trucking company in the works he is bound and determined... samantha has cheerleading, brownies and dance abree is back to dance and pompoms and school has started. Colton started preschool... abree started junior high , Kyle started high school and samantha hit second grade... wow October - Well that trucking company is officially up and running.... Terry is amazing and determined. November- my semester ended in college December - Great year... we decided in 2007 that we will officially be married and we are heading to vegas!!! summer time we are having a get together... Happy new year all... live your dreams, reach for them because it may never pass by again. Love each other you never know what tomorrow brings. Love yourself and make yourself # 1 it only benifits the ones you love the most...... December 17 Another great dayHard to believe christmas is right around the corner huh? I was thinking wow 53 degrees and its christmas time. Now that may seem alright to you dad but here that means no snowmobiling or snow angels.... I am all about summer but lets face it if you live in Michigan then why be upset about it. I guess I should just view it as I am blessed with another great day. I think that sometimes we forget how well off we all really are. I am not talking dollar amounts but how well off we are spiritually. I feel so fortunate to have what I have to know the people I know and have the health that I do... but most importantly I am happy with who I am. I think so often we forget to love the person we are and be proud of who you are. I am guilty at times of neglecting me and not getting to know the new parts of me. We all have importance in some way or another and to forget that you are neglecting yourself. I know I know I am rambling on but I get so many thoughts going at once if you could read or be in my mind these are the suddent thoughts you would see or hear.....
1. why am I still up
2. my neck is stiff
3. do i like this green
4. wow does steak sound good with some eggs
5. that would make me feel bloated
6. does Abree need lunch money tomorrow
7. I should take her to see pursuit to happiness today hmmm
8. yes I need to get some sleep
9. terry is snoring in there
anyways do you get the point my mind gets going.... I wish at times I could slow it down or run it with a remote... pause stop rewind fast forward lol Well on that note just be thankful for today and hug the ones you love I am off to dream land. To the ones expecting a christmas card they are later than usual but on there way....love you all Tracey December 14 Holiday funHello All!!
I have great news!!! well I finished my semester in school for one and for another a trip to Vegas is in the works for March so you know what that means either one of two things your going just to lose a bunch of money or attempt to gain a bunch or......ll....................... thats right take the plunge get hitched and I assure you in our case its not to lose a bunch of money. I just wanted to share that with you all....I hope everyone is surviving there holiday shopping. I wrote a blog about shopping last year here it is a little review about how I feel about it lol....
Tis the seasonWell who ever said the holiday shopping was fun? I dont think siffting through crazy bargain crazed woman, pushy people, long lines, price checks, friendly service desk clerks ( NOT) spending your money on a gift you really dont want to buy you feel obligated to buy , Not to cheap but not use your life savings is what I call fun!!! I know I know I sound so selfish but here is the simple truth of it. Woman just like to shop for themselves and their children aside from that we are mizers and dont like to spend our money and I think this is why shopping at th is time of year is so tough... all the other woman shopping are feeling the same way... okay so maybe being honest about this topic is sounding a little harsh but its the truth....and this does not mean I dont enjoy the christmas music, the holiday food and drinks, the pretty lights but whoevre said tis the season to be jolly was on something... does anyone agree with me... Or am I totally off? November 26 November is almost overHard to believe that this month has went so fast.... well is anyone ready for christmas. As you know I am kind of a bah hum bug when it comes to the shopping end of christmas. I have yet to start. I think this year is hard for me to get into the spirit. I will come around. I wanted to share with you some pics from our company. I will type some more and blog my heart out when time permits... lol what is time lol All the kids were here over the weekend. We were quite busy once again. Friday we were off to the hotel for some swimming fun... the kids ate junk food jumped on the bed went swimming and wore me out.... but we had fun. Saturday we got family pictures what a head ache but i will show those off when they come... sunday kyle abree and I went to visit my mother... a little nerve racking taking them there but we all had a good time... my mom cried and the kids were so happy to see her.... well take care all... T November 08 November is here already? wow hard to believe that Thanksgiving is right around the corner. It seems like the kids just started school. Halloween came and went. School for myself is going really well. I am still maintaining an all A grade in all my classes. The buisness is going good for Terry. Our time is more cramped than ever but somehow we keep pediling the bicycle lol.... I am really excited about November 24th. Kyle is finally comming home. I miss him soo much. I have good days and bad but he is doing really well and that is what counts. We are going to stay at a hotel and swim and eat junk food and watch movies all night. It is going to be me and the four kids so a good time is up a head.... We are also going to get our family christmas pics done on saturday so be watching for those. I have a confession frustration lately has been at its peak. The holidays as you all know do this too me. I think it is a tough time for me because I don't really have either of my parents my grandmother leaves and it just seems to be a sad time for me. I enjoy the kids but its a deep underneath feeling if that makes any sense at all. I some how pull through. I have had so much going on and trying to make some changes in my own life. What I mean in own life is not changes for the kids, terry, friends, or family but changes and accomplishments just for me. Questions like what do I want to accomplish and what will make me happiest have be questions for me and are very tough to answer. What I think is even more difficult is cultivating a plan to achieve them. Now I have relized that I must make a plan that gives me direction and purpose. I think that if this applies to you also just remember to take time to brainstorm and figure out what you need to do to make things happen. No one can do this but you. If you dont do it then you put yourself at risk for others making decisions for you. Dont settle for less than you are worth. Create and cultivate goals and aspirations. I just have to take the time to think about them and not stop there pursue them and slowly take baby steps and accomplish it. This doesnt mean do it all at once. I know I know I should follow my own advice huh.... well I guess what I am saying is if you have a dream follow it... chase it and grab a hold!!! well all take care.... Happy Turkey day if I dont chat before than. October 17 update Hello all
Wow amazing few weeks!! Well so much to tell as if I wasnt over whelmed before now it gets really over whelming lol.... Terry and I are official buisness owners of a corporation. We bought a trucking comapany that contracts for Fed Ex.... so a lot of work on top of both working full time going to school and 4 children.... what next lol we bought the buisness with a partner she is a blessing I think it will all go really well.... but its alot of work and Terry is always a worried mess as it is lol.... but I am really proud of him living his dream.... I went and visited my mother for the first time. I was a nervous wreck but it went really well she was sooooooooo excited to see me and the feeling was mutual.
Kids are doing great... Abree is getting better at the trombone, Kyle got an award for national honor society I am so proud of him.... Samantha is almost done with soccer but adjusting to the second grade, and Colton is busy..... He is definatly our handful getting a mind of his own.... but he does the cutest things sometimes you cant help but melt. The other day I was typing my homework in the office and he carried my cup of coffee in and said here you go you need some? omg I just squeezed him what a sweety. We just went to the pumkin farm this weekend. The little ones really enjoyed it. We went on a little hay ride and had donuts and hot coco. Abree and KYle were gone with their dad to great wolf lodge soI am sure they had a good time. We are going to the water park for Abree and Coltons birthday this year... thank goodness I get out of doing the whole slumber party..... Abree's basketball season is going good... Its over in November and then its on to something else. I tell ya always busy in this household well just wanted to touch base with everyone hope all is well would love to hear from you your email is always welcome.... take care Tracey September 29 im lostwhat a week!!! I have been feeling a little over whelmed. I am still going to school three days a week, working full time, raising children oh and sleep is suppose to be in there some where lol.... I was just recently asked to coach girls basketball but what the heck last i checked there was only 24 hours in a day and 7 days a week.... hmm so i had to decline. I tell ya saying No is tough at times. Terry was so upset that I even considered the basketball offer... he worries about me and sometimes it takes someone looking from the outside in to say hey what the heck are you doing... you are only one person.... Terry and I are working on a project that I will share with you later but that has only added to the stress. I guess like the ol saying one cannot put a quart in a pint cup. I need to slow down and check myself once in a while. I wonder sometimes if I am seeking a void and if that is why I continue to keep adding to the plate. Well I will say this no matter how busy I am whether its working full time, going to school, studying, running the kids to their events or practices, housework, spending time with the kids, spending time with terry, I never am unthankful for what I have. I feel very greatful for all that I have and all that I have accomplished in life. I guess the on going question for me is why is it I feel like I am racing time and have to do everything right now.... the only thing I can come up with is getting older is kicking my butt.... I think it has hit me that I am only getting older as are my children and if I dont get my goals accomplished now then will I ever have the chance? I dont know help me out here because I feel like I am constantly pulled by life and its hurdles but yet I am creating the problem and I bring most of this on myself so how do you slow down and relax? If anyone has an idea its welcomed September 22 Life is so busy but not too busywow I tell you what I am so spent. Today Terry left for work and all I could do was take a deep breath. Samantha and Colton went to their mothers. I love having them here but wow some days are crazy. I think between house work, school activities, my own school days, meal times, family times, alone times for everyone I dont think there is enough of me to go around. Some how we make it. Terry is amazing lately. He has so much going on and yet has learned to cook every now and then.... got ta love that. Like I mentioned I have school three days a week so time is precious. I knew it wojuld be a challenge but I felt that my whole life I have put on hold for others and that it is time for me to finish my degree and move on. I am finishing up my criminal justice degree and moving on to a degree in social work. We have a lot going that I will talk about down the road. over all we are all doing well. Abree is playing that trombone daily... god bless her lol she has a concert comming up how exciting is that!!! She started jazz and pom pom classes for this year. Basket ball starts tomorrow. Yes I know how many days are in the week. Samantha is in soccer she is in three dance classes this year jazz, ballet, and tap. Kyle is doing well. He has a homecomming date the 30th of september with Marlie from next door.... He also has a date with a girl in defiance the following weekend so he is busy... sounds like a little charmer on our hands. Colton has started preschool. He really likes it. Hard to believe. Well all I can say is wake up every morning and feel thankful for a new day! Don't waste it by backtracking too far into yesterday or reaching too far into tomorrow....Time is a gift that we all sometimes let slip away we forget how important it is to enjoy our lives and to help others enjoy
theirs. If you need to make changes in your life make them create a lifestyle that makes you feel complete Life is all around you the gift of time allows you endless possibilities..... Keep moving forward, and try to make every day your best day. Well all thank you for your support and I wanted to share a poem I found about time management thought was interesting...It kind of fit what I am rambling on about................... take care Tracey
September 03 survey senior year
Our busy vacation Hello all I have been sooooooooo busy. With summer comming to a hault its sad but true.... I am kind of relieved. I know when the snow is comming down and I cant warm up I will be wishing for summer. We had a great vacation. It went so fast. ALl the kids were here and that in its self made it a wonderful vacation. We went to the qualifying race at MIS track and that was a suprise for the kids and myself. Terry come out and said hurry up get ready we gotta go. It was a three hour drive and all we knew was we were going to Jacob Yoders farm to make butter lol... that is what he told the kids anyway. It was funny because the closer you got the more farms there were and my son Kyle was trying not to believe that we were going to make butter but his face expressions said differently. You could see the confusion or maybe it was a look of desperation lol I think he was thinking I cannot believe I have to go to an amish farm and watch butter be made lol. He thought we were maybe going hiking. When the kids saw the track they were excited. My daughter could only think about Dale Jr. and the youngest two liked the first few laps and they had enough. We were only ther about an hour and a half so just enough for them to see the cars race. On the next day we went up north to a festival we go to every year. His parents treat us and the kids and the kids really look forward to it. They ride rides all day. I was impressed with Samantha and Abree. Neither of them like to ride the big rides. They did all of them. Poor Samantha got on the zipper. I think Terry was more freaked out then she was. Kyle and Abree were with her. Kyle asked samantha like 5 times are you sure you want to ride? Samantha feeling confident said yes and off they went. I will only say I dont think her or Abree will do the zipper again lol. On that Monday we went to MIchigan Adventure. It was perfect weather. Once again the girls did all the rides. COlton loves the big rides but at the amusement park they enforce the heighth restrictions but we still managed to get him on a few fast rides. He was too little for most of the water rides. all in all we had a great time. We had our pictures taken in an antique booth and we dressed up like western outlaws kinda fun.... Our week was sooo busy . Samantha had cheerleading one day, I had to return Kyle on that Weds day and he was off to high school on thursday quite an emotional day for me. Abree had the neighbor girl Marlie over quite a bit and Samantha had her friend Tyla over. We went to the Delta pool one day and the kids really enjoy that. The last day Terry and I took the kids to grandma and grandpas for the night. They were excited to go and after 9 straight days of non stop go go go with the kids we were just as excited to get a break. Grandma and grandpa spoiled them rotten and they had a ball. We went to the casino won about 150.00 and it paid for our night so it all worked out. Somewhere in there we got our school shopping done thank goodness. I started school and Abree and samantha start next so busy times ahead. We all have so much going and sometimes I think how in the world will I keep up but, Somehow you do. I really struggle when my life slows down. I dont know what to do with myself. Well I know I have rambled on and on but instead of having to write everyone here it is..... Love you all and will talk to you soon... have a great Labor day.August 14 a ramblingwow where has time went? I feel like summer blew right by me. I have to admit it has been a wonderful summer. We havent had a whole lot of money to do a whole lot but our michigan adventure trip is comming and the beach, park and family walks are always much more full filling when it comes down to overall memories. My son is home and it feels good. He is so confused about so many issues his dad and I are having. Its difficult because I choose not to tell him a lot of things that could be hurtful to him about his dad and my son hears his dad and his wife bad mouth me. I choose not to put him in the middle and he feels I am not being honest by not telling him everything. I dont have all the answers and am not sure if keeping him in the dark is the best thing but I am his mom and I feel my number one obligation to him is to love honor and protect him. I know that someday he will understand but he is 14 and if feels like a life time away. Raising children is by far the toughest job in the whole world. I often turn to god when I feel like the answers are not comming to me.I strongly feel that children are all as different as each flower or plant you grow in your garden.Each requires special attention and what works for one plant might not work for another.This is even more true of the children we are entrusted to care for. I am a firm believer that there are times and seasons for all things.Raising children is a short season. We should make the most of each moment we can.There are so many times we are tired, ill or cannot spend quality time with our children, and we should not feel guilty about that.But when we do have time to talk, share, teach or play, let's do it! My children and I are talkers!We talk about anything and everything, and we trust each other.It seems it has always been this way.Talking and sharing starts young.It's important well I can't say Kyle is this way right now with me but Abree still is a talker with me. I love to laugh and share stories with my children good and bad ones. I in turn love to hear their stories they share with me. We use to at the dinner table share our highs and lows of the day. I would ask them what was your high today meaning what was the best thing that happened to you today. They usually replied quite rapidly with a long drawn out conversation. I then would ask what was your low? This meaning what happened to you today that felt uncomfortable? They usually had something to share as well. It was all a game to get them to communicate. So often we all get wrapped up in our work, daily erands, bills life challenges that we forget to enjoy the simple moments we have. I think sometimes we need to listen to one another and especially to be there as an 'ear' only sometimes as mom I don't always need to be 'Ann Landers' handing out the advice. I know I am guilty for this one. My son told me something not to long ago that hit the heart with full force. He said, " Mom you always think it's my fault and you never look at what you do" wow that was tough. I did hear what he had to say and relized that while offering him advice and correcting him I am often correcting myself at the same time. I dont come out and say I am wrong. I know on the inside and I know what I need to do to change it but often dont communicate that portion of the problem. I let Kyle know he was right and that it would now become a goal for me to admit when I am wrong and listen to what he has to say. I dont have to agree nor does he but listening makes a world of difference. wow did I ever get on a tangent lol but I had a tough night with my son and it was on the mind. We were able to work out our differences but I worry about when he goes back home because he gets lied to and its a constant up hill battle. I wont stop fighting the battle for my son but as far as his father I know that he has a long way to go toward maturity and wisdom. He at least puts effort forth now and I thank god for that because had we stayed married the children would not have had a father. It was always me taking care of them and taking care of him. I guess that is the best thing that came out of our divorce is he had to grow up and be a father. His new wife is definatly a big part of that and for that I am thankful also. I know that with terry and I he always says what would l do with out you. I do take credit for teaching him so much with his children and mine. He like my ex husband was not very active with his children before being divorced. I am convinced that with men it depends on happiness. My ex husband was very unhappy and was in a depression most of the time. He slept most of our marriage. I think that same with Terry he was depressed un happy in his marriage and in turn it affected his parenting. Woman are different. we dont have a choice. we have to keep being the parent. We have to keep providing and keep the family rolling. I tell Terry all the time you just have to make the best of the time you have now and move forward. He is an amazing person all the way around. The strenghth, the wisdom, the compassion, the patience, the sence of humor that he offers is incredible. He is one of the best fathers I have ever met. He handles what ever is thrown at him with careful choice. It feels wonderful to finally be happy and in turn be the wife he deserves, the mother my children deserve and the friend I need to be to my friends. Its nice to not have to work at happiness it is just always there.I know that in time it all comes out in the wash and Kyle will understand someday. These are the times I really miss my mother. I want to just cry to her and say mom what more can I do? She always has a special way of making you feel better just by the twinkle in her eye. She has always been closest to Kyle and I think at times he really needs her. Well gotta run making some steak and corn on the cob from the garden. Take care all and remember...... This too shall pass lol August 07 catch upHello everyone
I want to apologize for not keeping up lately. I have been so busy. I often wonder if it were possiable to add more time to the day would I catch up on all that needs to be done or would I just find more to do. MY guess is that I would find more to do. I tell ya when my children are gone I really dont get a whole lot done. You would think that it would be the perfect oppertunity to catch up but I turn into a hermit and my bed feels extra soft. I think in my own mind I must be trying to catch up on sleep. So much has happened. Abree went on her trip with her grandparents to Mt. Rushmore Kyle went to Florida, and Abree just got back from Equestrian or horse back camp. I have to say it was amazing watching her do her little horse show . She learned so much and I had to tear up because it seemed as if my little girl grew up. I dont think that it helped any that she officially became a woman a few days before departing to camp. For all you mothers with daughters you know how much of a mile stone this is lol... Samantha and COlton have been comming regularly keeping Terry and I on our toes. Samantha wants constant attention. I love giving it to her but wow maybe that is why I am so sleepy during the week lol. We have our second summer vacation comming up. I am really excited about Kyle comming home. He has not been here much due to football but he has opted to get out of football. I didnt think he was really into it. His love is basketball. I think his other set of parents were pushing it. None of that matters what does is he thought it through and made a tough decision and for that I am proud of him. We are going to go to Michigan Adventure for a day and we have some other things planned. The dreadful school shopping being one thing lol. Terry and I have been so busy. I will try to keep up a little bit better....take care and talk to you all real soon... July 16 you choose to not have toWe're often heard complaining and grumbling about all the things in our lives that we are forced to do. How about taking a different mental approach? Instead of thinking, "I have to go to work, because we need the cash", think instead, "I choose to go to work, because I love my family and want to provide for them". Strictly speaking, you do have a choice - you can quit your job and be a bum, while your family starves. Instead of, "I have to clean the house", why not, "I choose to clean the house, so that we would have a clean home". Again, you can always leave your house dirty and untidy. Nobody is forcing you. I come about this thought with my mother. She was finally sentenced to prison for her charges. She recieved 2-20 and yes that is plenty but it could have been worse. I was thinking "I have to go visit my mother in prison but in reality I don't have to visit I choose to visit be cause of the loyalty my mother has taught me, Push aside the I-have-to-do-this -because-someone-is pointing-a-gun-at-my-head mentality. Channeling positive thoughts into your responsibilities subconsciously convinces yourself that what you are doing is of some value, that it is meaningful. In the process, you take joy and pride in what you are doing, and your life becomes happier and more fulfilling. I know at times this can be difficult but in the end you feel better.
July 04 happy 4th of JulyJuly 03 want to share this storyMichael is the kind of guy you love to hate. He is always in a good mood and always has something positive to say. When someone would ask him how he was doing, he would reply, "If I were any better, I would be twins!" He was a natural motivator. If an employee was having a bad day, Michael was there telling the employee how to look on the positive side of the situation. Seeing his style really made me curious. One day I went to Michael and asked him, "I don't get it! You can't be a positive person all of the time. How do you do it?" Michael replied, "Each morning I wake up and say to myself, Mike, you have two choices today. You can choose to be in a good mood or you can choose to be in a bad mood. I choose to be in a good mood. Each time something bad happens, I can choose to be a victim or I can choose to learn from it. I choose to learn from it. Every time someone comes to me complaining, I can choose to accept their complaining or I can point out the positive side of life. I choose the positive side of life." Yeah, right, it's not that easy," I protested. "Yes, it is," Michael said. "Life is all about choices. When you cut away all the junk, every situation is a choice. You choose how you react to situations. You choose how people will affect your mood. You choose to be in a good mood or a bad mood. The bottom line: It's your choice how you live life." I reflected on what Michael said. Soon thereafter, I left the industry to start my own business. We lost touch, but I often thought about him when I made a choice about life instead of reacting to it. Several years later, I heard that Michael was involved in a serious accident, falling some 60 feet from a communications tower. After 18 hours of surgery and weeks of intensive care, Michael was discharged from the hospital with rods placed in his back. I saw Michael about six months after the accident. When I asked him how he was, he replied, "If I were any better, I'd be twins. Wanna see my scars?" I declined to see his wounds, but did ask him what had gone through his mind as the accident took place. "The first thing that went through my mind was the well-being of my soon to be born daughter," Michael replied. "Then, as I lay on the ground, I remembered that I had two choices: I could choose to live or I could choose to die. I chose to live." "Weren't you scared? Did you lose consciousness?" I asked. Michael continued,"...the paramedics were great. They kept telling me I was going to be fine. But when they wheeled me into the ER and I saw the expressions on the faces of the doctors and nurses, I got really scared. In their eyes, I read 'he's a dead man.' I knew I needed to take action." "What did you do?" I asked. "Well, there was a big burly nurse shouting questions at me," said Michael. "She asked if I was allergic to anything. "Yes," I replied. The doctors and nurses stopped working as they waited for my reply. I took a deep breath and yelled, "Gravity." Over their laughter, I told them, 'I am choosing to live. Operate on me as if I am alive, not dead'." Michael lived, thanks to the skill of his doctors, but also because of his amazing attitude. I learned from him that every day we have the choice to live fully. Attitude after all, is everything. letting them make decisionsOkay so I got thinking about a few things and hopefully it will help you in an area I know is tough on me and Terry with 4 kids of all ages.I read about this in a blog and it really moved me. I mean It made me reevaluate some of my own ways of thinking. It hit home for me in alot of ways because with Terry having small children and me having teenagers our views for eachother are sometimes different but we value what eachother has to say and the advice given. We’re born adventurers, and we need adventure in our lives in order to feel fulfilled and enthusiastic. I wanted to share with you how proud I am of Terry. He amazes me everyday. He has grown tremendously as a father, and as an individual. The other day Samantha asked to go for a walk by herself with her girlfriend to the end of our rd. This may not seem like a big deal to anyone but when I heard Terry answer yes be careful I was shocked but I have to admit a tingle went through me because I was so proud of him. Terry has the tendancy to worry and not let his children be individuals. I realize this is normal and not a bad thing but He has made leaps and bounds with the kids.I keep telling him they have to have independance in order to grow. They need to make mistakes and have trips and falls to grow menatlly and intellectually. Look at little children who haven’t fully grasped the boundaries that their parents are trying to set. They explore, and poke and prod, and find something new and curious every where they go. They are vibrant and full of life, and every day holds a sense of wonder and excitement. But then they learn that only some things, where the risk is very low, are acceptable, and their enthusiasm for life begins to wane. The giggles and peels of excited laughter taper off, and the sparkle in their eyes only shines when they’ve been given approval to try something new. As parents, we wonder where the enthusiastic and unbridled joy has gone, and get frustrated over their increasing tempers and lack of patience. But we never seem to realize that without adventure, there is little joy in life, either for our children, or for ourselves. I feel this is difficult for us as parents but is a requirement. If children dont learn independance and learn to love what they do based on their own decisions then how do they learn to love what they do as adults. I know so many adults who still cant make decisions on their own, hate what they do, and always need someone to tell them how to accomplish tasks. They have no outlook for themselves or feeling of accomplishment for goals they set for themselves. They dont even know how to have a goal or what that means. It is a sad but true fact and it starts when they are young. When you love where you are and what you’re doing in your life, when there is adventure, personal growth, and exploration, there is also a sense of fulfillment and contentment that can’t be achieved in any other way. Please understand that I’m not advocating jumping off buildings, stepping in front of busses or betting everything you own on a horse race; but I am suggesting that you step off the beaten path, venture outside your personal comfort zone, and approach new experiences with an expectation of adventure. When with your kids listen to them help them feel that needed self fulfillment and contentment we all need. When its a difficult topic and decision you have to make reguarding your children just remember every reactions you have and every demand you put on them affects their way of thinking about the next decision they have to make. In typing this and thinking about this I am thinking about my own children, the bike rides or walks they want to take alone, the parties they want to attend ALONE, the friends house they want to stay at ALONE, hill they want to run down really fast, ect...... I am going to have to keep reminding myself that so far I have done a good job with my children and taught them the best I could and now they have to take the test or an occational quiz without me and I can only hope that when the final grade comes THEY are the ones happy with it. If THEY are happy with what they accomplish then guarenteed I will be happy and that is what it is all about. busy busy busy hello all!!! I have to apologize I am not keeping up lately. We have been so busy. Friday we took samantha and Colton to the water park for her 7th birthday. We really had a wonderful time. Colton is a hoot... he has no fear i love watching him swim underwater..... Samantha took her friend from school and at first she didnt want to leave Terry and I but we reassured her she was fine and off she went... Terry was a big kid as usual and was up and down the water slides with them. Saturday was busy also. We went to a redneck mud bog lol... it was really fun though. We had icecream and cake for samanthas birthday and then terrys parents went to the mud bog with us. They had a pig roast and lots of good food so I guess I cant complain. Sunday Sam and Colton went back to their mothers house and Terry and I went out on the boat from 12:00 noon untill 2:00 am so just imagin the sunburns we have lol... we really had a great time too. Our neighbors invited us and Terry and I were definatly in need for some us time. Today I am back to work. I am missing Abree and Kyle something terriable. Abree is still gone to south dakota and kyle is still in florida. Well upcomming I think we are going to take the kids to the beach and as promised take samantha shopping so she can blow that birthday money. Well talk to you all later.... June 26 wow time fliesHello all!!!
Sorry I havent been keeping up lately... you know with 4 kids and it being summer it gets hectic... Samantha is finished with softball both the girls are done with dance thank goodness, and now Kyle is off to start football. I guess with children the chaos never ends. Colton is starting preschool this year. We have had a good vacation. We went camping and it was a good time. We went swimming, tubing down the river, cooked out and ate good!!! We had terrys friend scotts kids and so it was a good time. We left early due to the rain. THere was no way terry and I would survive with 6 children in the motor home all day lol.... We headed home and then prepared for my best friends wedding . I was in the wedding so getting prepared was another busy task. I had to go shopping for all of the kids and Terry included I swear they never stop growing.... we had rehersel on friday and the Elvis theme wedding on saturday what a riot.... Samantha and I danced our hearts out. I dont think she left my side the whole time... Colton Kyle and abree danced also... we even got the daddy out there.... we had a wonderful time. We took the kids back to connie and rons and they knocked out in the motorhome. We visited around the campfire and took even more pictures. I swear I have never had my picture taken so much in one day lol... It was one of the most unique weddings I hace ever been too... the whole elvis theme was so fitting for Ron he played the part well.sunday we had to take abree to her friends house and Kyle had to return to Ohio. Kyle was wonderful we really had a good time. Monday morning sam and colton returned home. I had to take Abree to her grandmas today she is off to South Dakota and Is going to the black hills.... I think she will enjoy herself. Kyle is leaving wed to FLorida for a few weeks... geesh these kids get better vacations than we do.... I guess that is the way it goes... check out all the pics I hope you like them.... well back to work tonight so I am about to go get some Java in me .... take care T |
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